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Guy 101: How to Hook Up
What every guy needs to know to master the modern art of quick and casual sex. By Sarah Preston at Playboy.com

Dating is dead. At least that's what the 25-year-old authors of The Hookup Handbook, Andrea Lavinthal and Jessica Rozler, are convinced of after years of casually hooking up in college and beyond. Gal pal table talk à la Sex and the City has turned from "I hope he asks me out" to "I hope he calls me late-night." Don't be fooled, guys: You're not the only ones bragging about last night's booty call.

"The key to hooking up is the networking thing," Lavinthal says. "And alcohol has a lot to do with it -- people don't really hook up at Starbucks. There's the group that's getting married and the group that's hooking up -- it's what everyone's doing now."

Lavinthal and Rozler discuss the joys of casual sex with Playboy.com, from the rules of drunk dialing to friends with benefits.

THE APPROACH
"In a bar, a guy shouldn't approach a girl he flat-out doesn't know," Lavinthal advises. When girls are out having fun, they might want to meet a guy, but they don't necessarily want to be cornered by a stranger. "There should be some kind of connection to that person," she adds, "so it makes the girl feel like this isn't some random guy she's about to go home with." It's like networking for a job, but more fun. Make sure you have references -- someone who can vouch for you.

NOT ALWAYS SEX IN THE CITY
Guys should not assume they're going to get laid. "Sex isn't always going to come into play when you're hooking up. Hooking up means a wide variety of things," Rozler explains. "There's the hookup in the bar, when you're sucking face," Lavinthal adds, "and when you leave, you say, 'I hooked up with him.'" A hookup that lasts a few weeks or more will usually end up in a sexual relationship, but girls still make some kind of rule about that. Hooking up is not all about sex.

MY PLACE OR YOURS?
"A girl feels more comfortable at her place. It's the 'stuff' factor -- we need our stuff," Lavinthal says. "You're likely to get more ass if you're at her place. Girls are uncomfortable with the whole bathroom situation at a guy's place, as well as the walk of shame home from his place. If you're at her place, she'll feel more in control and safer."

THE EX FACTOR
Hooking up with an ex can be fun and effortless. "This is playing so dirty, but it's very easy to get yourself back in there," says Lavinthal. "You have to say things like, 'We clearly didn't work out as a couple but we always had so much chemistry.' Since you're already 'in,' the 2 a.m. drunk phone call usually works." If you do hook up with a recent squeeze, the authors counsel that you nix talking about friends and the future, and that you try to avoid spending the night.

TEXT SEX
"Text messaging is an integral part of hooking up," says Rozler. These days, it's okay to make plans via text message when you're meeting out at a bar, but if you want the hookup to have longevity, pick up the phone and put in some calls. Or even send an e-mail. Lavinthal adds that, "Girls just by nature get a little annoyed when it's just text messaging. A phone call shows that, while you might not be boyfriend and girlfriend, you'll actually take the time to dial her friggin' number to talk to her."

KEEP HER AT BAY
If you don't want her to have expectations that the hookup is going to turn into a real relationship, Lavinthal has this advice: "Keep your sober activities limited. Don't invite her to the movies on a Tuesday night and buy her Gummi Bears and popcorn. Don't talk about your family a lot. Don't talk about the future."

THE RULES OF DRUNK DIALING
"Don't leave a voice mail message if you're really drunk, because you're gonna sound like a jackass," Lavinthal warns. "The girl's gonna see your missed call anyway." And be sure when you call to make it sound like you're not ready to end the night. Tell her you're headed to another bar, because, according to Lavinthal, "He shouldn't make it seem like she's the last stop on the booty train."

LET THE CIRCLE BE UNBROKEN
What do the authors think is the biggest hookup faux pas? "Our biggest no-no," Lavinthal warns, "is don't invade her group of friends and secretly hit on all of them." If you do, you stand to lose them all, and it will create a whole lot of unwanted drama in the process.

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